We frequently write about the challenges traditionally associated with the divorce process. There is no question that the divorce process tends to be physically, mentally and emotionally trying. However, it is important to reflect upon the reality that pursuing a divorce often leads to a brighter, happier and healthier future. Especially when individuals are willing to view this process as a transition between one phase of life and the next, instead of as a failure of some sort, divorce can act as a catalyst for a happier and healthier existence.
If you are struggling to see the positive opportunities present within the divorce process, you are not alone. Many individuals have a difficult time seeing past their grief, anger and frustration before their divorces are finalized. However, if you are willing to look past your understandably negative emotions even for a few minutes at a time, you may be able to draw strength from specific visions of the future.
For example, if you have children you have likely had disagreements with your spouse in the past about how your children are being raised. If your spouse is choosing to remain a part of your children’s lives, you will likely continue to disagree about your children from time to time. However, there is a freedom in single parenthood, regardless of how your child custody arrangements are structured. When your children are under your roof, you can generally raise them in ways that you deem appropriate. You can bond with them, discipline them and teach them about life without your spouse constantly questioning your approach.
Please check back in next week as we will continue our discussion on many of the positives of life post-divorce in a future post.
Source: The Huffington Post, “12 Unexpectedly Wonderful Things About Life After Divorce,” Brittany Wong, June 2, 2015