The decision to divorce is as personal as the decision to get married. Only you can determine whether or not seeking a divorce would be the healthiest decision for you. However, when emotions are running high it can be uniquely difficult to think about your marriage with clarity and focus. When you are feeling deeply angry, fearful, disconnected or betrayed and these emotions are coupled with either love or questions about love, it can be challenging to answer the question, “Should I seek a divorce?” with any kind of conviction either way.
It is important to understand that it is very normal and quite human to feel one way and then to have your feelings shift. This can happen many times a day during periods of heightened emotion and instability within your relationship. As a result, it can be helpful to seek out the advice of a counselor or another objective third-party. Someone who is trained to help you sort out your feelings and see the big picture more clearly either way may be an excellent resource for you right now.
Some individuals would tell you that the question of whether or not you should divorce can be summed up with zero-sum answers to queries like, “Is there more good than bad in your relationship?” and “Do you want it to work?” For some, answering these questions may provide necessary clarity. However, life is often too extraordinarily complex for such questions to be effective. As a result, speaking to someone neutral and trained in helping others process this information may be necessary before you can answer the ultimate question of whether or not filing for divorce is the best choice for you.
Source: Huffington Post, “Is Divorce Right for You?” Debbie Martinez, Oct. 31, 2013